WRITTEN BY JEFFREY GITOMER@GITOMERKING OF SALES, The author of thirteen best-selling books including The Sales Bible, The Little Red Book of Selling, and The Little Gold Book of Yes! Attitude. His
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WRITTEN BY JEFFREY GITOMER
KING OF SALES, The author of thirteen best-selling books including The Sales Bible, The Little Red Book of Selling, and The Little Gold Book of Yes! Attitude. His real-world ideas and content are also available as online courses at www.GitomerLearningAcademy.com.
Happy New Year! Or…is it?
People wish it to you, to me — all the time.
So how happy are you right now? Really?
What’s your plan to be happy this year? Or are you just going back to the “goal” and “resolution” process that really hasn’t worked that well for you over the past decade. Or is it two decades?
CAUTION: This is not one of those silly “have your best year ever” or “set your goals for the new year” messages. This is a challenge and an insight. It started for me when I realized how debilitating and UN-happy the word “after” is.
After is a self-defeating word.
It robs you of the present, and resigns you to wait without taking any action.
You convince yourself that life will be better after something:
after you get a new job,
after you get a better job,
after you get more money,
after you get out of debt,
after the economy rebounds,
after your stocks go back up,
after you get that big order.
You convince yourself that life will be better after an event:
after you get married,
after you have a baby,
after you get a new house,
after you take a vacation,
after you come back from vacation,
after summer is over, or some other action-procrastinating "after."
Are you frustrated that the kids aren't old enough, and believe you'll be more content after they're in high school or out of high school? Are you frustrated that you have teenagers to deal with? You will certainly be happy after they're out of that stage. Certainly you'll be happier after they're in college, or is it out of college?
You tell yourself that your life will be more complete when:
your spouse gets his or her act together
when you get a nicer car, a new house, a raise in pay, a new boss, or worse, after you retire.
The truth is, the fact is, the reality is, there's no better time to be happy than right now.
If not now, when? After the economy gets better?
You may not be able to wait that long.
Your life will always be filled with challenges, barriers, and disappointments. It's best to admit this to yourself and decide to be happy anyway. Alfred Souza said, "For a long, long time it had seemed to me that I was about to begin real life. But there was always some obstacle in the way, something to be gotten through first, some unfinished business, time still to be served, a debt to be paid. Then life would begin. At last it dawned on me that these obstacles were my life."
There is no way to happiness.
Happiness is the way.
There is no after to happiness
Happiness is now.
Here's the answer: It's inside your head FIRST and everyplace else second. Happiness is a treasure. Your (missed) opportunity is to treasure every moment that you have.
Stop waiting until:
you finish school
you go back to school
you lose ten pounds
you gain ten pounds
you have kids
after you quit smoking
your kids leave the house
you start work
you get married
you get divorced
you get your new car or home
your car or home is paid off
the first or the fifteenth
your song comes on
you've had a drink
you've sobered up
you win the lottery
or until the cows come home to decide that there is no better time than right now to be happy.
And treasure the happiness of now more because you share it with someone special enough to invest your time in...
Not a sale or a commission.
Not an economy or a budget.
Not a yes or a no.
Not a game winning hit or a last second touchdown.
Happiness is a way of life that is inside you at all times.
It helps you get over the tough times, and helps you celebrate the special times.
Seems pretty simple to define on paper, but real difficult to manifest when the chips are down. My experience has taught me the difference between resign and resolve. You can resign yourself to what is, and hope or wait for a better day. Or you can resolve that you are a positive person who finds the good, the positive, the happiness, the smile, and especially the opportunity in everything.
Happiness is now, not a goal or a destination.
It's not an after, it's a before.
And it's up to you. All you have to do is: decide.